Wednesday, April 3, 2013

An Unexpected Pain

So, there are the caring, poetic doctors who seem to understand your child and your situation and make you feel like everything is okay.

And then there are the doctors you don't see until you've been waiting two hours.

Who use the phrases "kids like him" and "kids like that." Repeatedly.

Who don't look you in the eye when they shake your hand and never touch your child during the course of the appointment.

Who relay their opinion with drama rather than compassion.

Who brush off your questions and smirk at your concerns.

We saw one of those doctors last week. Except the appointment was even worse than I describe here. I've just now recovered from the experience enough to write about it and I've started to draft the letter that I will be sending to the entire practice to explain why we are never coming back. And since I can't sort out my dislike for and distrust of the doctor from his diagnoses, we have an appointment for a second opinion in Cincinnati in a little over two weeks.


  1. Ugh! I'm so sorry that happened to you and Collin! Praying the next appointment is a lot better. Love and miss you guys!

  2. Why can they be so mean? I had a specialist that I saw in a health scare that had me in tears every check up. Such hateful words sowing seeds of distrust. I am thankful to know some really good ones to remind me it was just one office and doctor. Praying your heart heals and Collin is well.

  3. I never wrote a letter, but had a similar experience at the NIH, of all places. Like you, I wasn't sure if I could sort out my dislike from the diagnoses Dr. Meanie flung out after less than 5 minutes with B. Well, less than a year after that visit, all the diagnoses were disproven. And, 3 years after that, I still hate the guy. Maybe I should've written a letter! Even if the practice does nothing (although hopefully they will!), at the very least it can be a release for you--and maybe you won't be carrying bitterness around after 3 years! Good luck. :)

  4. You are The Best Mom. EVER. xo

  5. How can their practices thrive if they act like that? So sorry for such a demeaning experience. But, you are more than a conqueror, and God gives grace upon grace. Write the letter, but keep reminding yourself that you are a daughter of the King!

  6. So sorry to read this my friend. Maybe this explains why you've been on my mind and my heart lately! Sending you love and gratitude for the friendship and example you've always been for me.